by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “Anger is like flowing water; there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you let it flow. Hate is like stagnant water—anger that you denied yourself the freedom to feel. Allow yourself to feel anger, allow your waters to flow… Be human.” ― C. JoyBell C. If you’re feeling […]
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by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “Death ends a life, not a relationship. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there.” — Morrie Schwartz After the death of someone close to you, you enter a time of deep grief. This is a normal and necessary time of transition. If
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Companioning is about curiosity; it is not about expertise. by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “Real understanding is a creative mixture of certainty and unknowing. The trick is to know when you don’t understand.” -Thomas Moore Curiosity for the companion is about being willing to enter into and learn about the mystery of grief while recognizing you
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…it is not about teaching them. by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “Allow stories to be told without slipping into interpretations, analysis, and conclusions.” Thomas Moore When I attended graduate school in traditional psychology, I learned semantics such as assess, diagnose and treat. In large part, I was taught to study a body of knowledge surrounding
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…it is not about imposing order and logic. by Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD “Instead of struggling against the force of confusion, we could meet it and relax.” — Pema Chodron The death of someone loved brings about significant change in the life of the mourner. Change of any kind starts with disorder and confusion. Companioning
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