Caregiving and Grieving

Companioning Tenet Seven: the gifts of sacred silence

Companioning the bereaved means discovering the gifts of sacred silence; it does not mean filling up every moment with words. “Do not speak unless you can improve upon silence.” Buddhist teaching In discovering the gifts of sacred silence, you cultivate what becomes an avenue for the mourner to open his heart up to wisdom surrounding […]

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Companioning Tenet Six: Walking Alongside

Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading or being led. “The most familiar models of who we are—doctor and patient, ‘helper’ and ‘helped’—often turn out to be major obstacles to the expression of our caring instincts; they limit the full measure of what we have to offer one another… True compassion arises

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Companioning Tenet Five: Bearing Witness

Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggle of others; it is not about judging or directing these struggles. by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act caring, all of which have  the potential to turn

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Companioning Tenet Four: listening with the heart…

Companioning is about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head. by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “Listen and attend with the ear of your heart.” -Saint Benedict Scientific analyses about grief and therapeutic theories surrounding interventions often result in caregivers overlooking the sacred art of listening with the heart. In fact,

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COMPANIONING: Tenet Three: honoring the spirit

Companioning is about honoring the spirit; it is not about focusing on the intellect. by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “The ultimate cure, as many ancient and modern psychologies of depth have asserted, comes from love and not from logic.” Thomas Moore To be torn apart and to then become whole again we need more than

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